The Power of Sexual Surrender
May 29, 2002
Marie N. Robinson MD, a Cornell educated psychiatrist devoted her New York City practice to the treatment of frigidity. Her small book, The Power of Sexual Surrender (1958) is the sanest work on feminine psychology ever written. In a world where thousands of self-help books are published, this eloquent guide to sexual health and happiness is out of print. The reason? It is politically incorrect.
Dr. Robinson writes that a woman's identity lies in an "essential feminine altruism." A woman's self-expression and power is based on making her husband and children her first priority. Similarly, her sexual satisfaction and spiritual fecundity depend on self-surrender.
Robinson says men and women are different by nature. Men are designed for mastery of the external (physical) world, and women for mastery of the internal (spiritual) world and the home. These are not social stereotypes, as feminists argue. "Women are designed for duties different from those of the marketplace, another kind of stress entirely," writes Robinson. They "tend to lose their essential womanliness if they stay [in the marketplace] by choice." (149)
Dr. Robinson says that millions of American women suffer from frigidity. While she explores many complex causes in detail, she notes that frigid women universally adopt the feminist view. This view (that men exploit woman and a career as a wife and mother is demeaning) creates an "emotional logjam" that impedes sexual response and psychological development.
According to Robinson, modern women have an identity crisis because they think they are no longer needed as women. Before the industrial revolution, the home was the center of all life and a woman was the indispensable center of the home. She prepared clothing and food, reared and trained the children and helped with farm tasks. The industrial revolution seemed to make women obsolete. Everything could be bought in stores. The home was empty. Children went to school, husbands to work. Children were not needed and were even considered a liability.
Woman's response was to turn against her own femininity. Mary Wollstonecraft launched feminism with her book Vindication of the Rights of Women (1792). Proclaiming that women were identical to men, she dedicated feminism to the achievement of maleness in women. According to Robinson, "the feminist credo thoroughly discredited feminine needs and characteristics and substituted male goals for female goals."(53)
The other response to the industrial revolution was not feminist, but "Victorian" but it also rejected femininity. Robinson says Victorian women took "revenge" on men by denying women had any sexual feelings. They "were amazingly successful in convincing men in general and even the scientists of the day that frigidity was indeed a basic attribute of the female." (54)
Thus, feminists and Victorian women laid the foundations for modern female neurosis.
"The depreciation of the goals of femininity, biological and psychological, became part and parcel of the education of millions of American girls. Homemaking, childbearing and rearing, cooking, the virtues of patience, lovingness, givingness in marriage, have been systematically devalued. The life of male achievement has been substituted for the life of female achievement." (55)
The feminist-Victorian antagonism to men was handed down from mother to daughter so that "to millions of women, hostility towards the opposite sex seems almost a natural law. Although many a modern women may pay lip service to the ideal of a passionate and productive marriage to a man, underneath she deeply resents her role, conceives of the male as fundamentally hostile to her, as an exploiter of her. She wishes in her deepest heart, and often without the slightest awareness of the fact, to supplant him, to exchange roles with him." (emphasis mine, 56)
Robinson says that women have blamed their problems on the outside world instead of looking within for the real problem and the real solution. She says that if feminism had brought women happiness in relationships or careers, the game might have been worth it.
"But it hasn't been. The game has brought frigidity and restlessness and a soaring divorce rate, neurosis, homosexuality, juvenile delinquencyall that results when a woman in any society deserts her true function." (56)
Dr. Robinson writes that once the emotional "log jam" is removed, a woman's natural instincts will flow and health will be restored. Essentially this involves "allowing herself to trust her husband in a very deep sense. It means that she finally realizes that she no longer has to fear or oppose his strength, but that she can rely on it to protect her, to give her the secure climate necessary for the full flowering of her femininity." (153)
On the other hand, the woman who mistrusts her husband's love and, as a consequence, her own femininity has a "difficult, painful, frenetic" approach to life. She is at war with herself.
In bed, she has to feel "in control all the time." For a profound vaginal orgasm, Robinson writes, "the excitement comes from the act of surrender. There is a tremendous surging physical ecstasy in the yielding itself, in the feeling of being the passive instrument of another person..." (158)
Robinson regards the clitoris as a masculine vestige. She implies that even if a woman is sexually active and mechanically adept she may still be frigid. Feminine sexuality depends on "absolute trust" in a man, which enables a woman to fully receive and fully respond.
Dr. Robinson believes that there is nothing in life as important as love. Marriage is the key to our development as human beings. It is through this relationship that the power of love is felt in the world.
"Love means, in its very deepest sense union; union between individuals...It is the most basic and profound urge we have and its power for good is illimitable... the lover partner becomes as important as oneself...This fact is why real love never leads to domination or to a struggle for power..." (129)
The significance of The Power of Sexual Surrender is profound.
By coercing women to abandon their femininity and usurp the male role, feminism throws a spanner in the natural heterosexual mechanism of humanity. The consequences are dire. Millions of women are condemned to emotional and physical isolation. Similarly, men are deprived of the role of protector and provider essential to their psychological development and fulfillment.
The triumph of such a manifestly wrongheaded ideology, and the suppression of the truth, signifies that control in the world has passed to a malignant force. As I have shown in previous articles an amoral elite power fosters feminism as part of a long-term agenda to dislodge western civilization from its religious and cultural moorings. The tax-exempt foundations, the elite media, the CIA and the Communist Party of the USA are all behind the promotion of sexual dysfunction in the guise of feminism. The purpose is to destroy the nuclear family, decrease population, stunt human development and destabilize society. Our government is part of this elite agenda that aims to create a materialist, fascist "New World Order". Feminists who oppose the NWO are unwitting agents of it.
Finally, where does this leave the female "identity crisis"? Men and women must be free to find fulfillment in any way they please. A woman can have a career. Robinson's work suggests that a woman need not give up her femininity if her career takes second place to her love of husband and family. The world (men women and child alike) is starved for the feminine principle: beauty, grace, love. This article could as easily have been titled: "Wanted: A Few Good Women."